Originally Posted by jan

I think it's more complicated than pointing the finger at one person and saying "they're to blame".

But obviously the men were vulnerable as were the women, and apparently they saw something in the other they appreciated and acted on it.

Now...if the home life was all that, why would they have been tempted to stray? I'm not saying it's the wife's fault for not "keeping her man happy", but it's the coupleship that apparently wasn't all it could be. And both the wife and husband have a part in allowing the coupleship to disintegrate to the point of vulnerability.